I fully admit it, when I love something I obsess on it. I can’t quit thinking about it, and usually I can’t quit talking about it either. So, I want to share with you all the things I am obsessing about, whether it be a product, an idea, or fashion. Give me a shout out and let me know what you are obsessing over.
I know I have continued to be away for a while, and it’s really just more of the same kind of stuff going on in life that has kept me away from the blog. Don’t give up on me, I promise I will have my shit together soon. I am hoping my upcoming vacation will give me a renewed sense of energy and clarity.
But we aren’t here about that right now. I recently attended my first local LGBTQ charity event, outside of Pride of course, and I knew I wanted to share what the event was like with all of you. If you have followed this blog for any amount of time then you know that I am always down to support a good cause and any group that is about equality.
This was the Big Baskets of the Bluegrass Underwear Fashion Show & Charity Auction. The event was hosted by a local group called the KBB (Kentucky Bourbon Bears) and the Bar Complex. The charity they were raising money for was Arbor Youth Services. I took a lot of pictures at the event, as well as a selfie of what I wore, so I could share it all with you (just a reminder before you scroll down to the pictures they will be considered NSFW for most people). But before we move on to the pictures, I want to take a minute to share with you a little information about the event as well as each of the organizations and how you can be involved if you would like.
First lest talk about the KBB. According to their website:
The Kentucky Bourbon Bears, Inc. is a social organization whose purpose is to provide a brotherhood and place of acceptance. We are a network for gay and bisexual men who identify themselves as bears, bear admirers and friends of bears. Our members are from all walks of life, size, shape, age, color and social standing.
Our main goal is a drama-free, accepting brotherhood that opens our membership to all men of Kentucky and, through our diversity and differences, create a strong organization that is able to give back to the community in which we live.
The events co-sponsor, The Bar Complex, is Lexington’s most well-known gay and alternative bar. Don’t quote me on this, but I believe they are also the oldest one in town. They consist of three levels. On one level is lounge that offers various shows and events, then on the next level is their cabaret, and the top floor is the dance floor and light show. All three levels have their own bars. The Big Baskets of the Bluegrass was held on the ground level in the lounge.
Since this is my first year attending the event I am not sure if they raise money for the same charity every year or if they pick a different one. But what I do know is that this years charity was Arbor Youth Services. They are a great organization that helps children. Their main focus is on homeless and at risk children. They have an emergency shelter as well as several support services for these children in need. Since LGBTQ youth are the most at risk, this makes a lot of sense to be the charity the KBB chose to support. If you would like to support Arbor Youth Services, you can do so by either donating either money and items or by getting involved and giving of your time.
So while the KBB is focused on Gay and Bi men, the actual Big Baskets of the Bluegrass event included women. And the event itself wasn’t advertised as a body positive event, I know body positive when I see it. In fact it was also very body inclusive. There were both men and women who modeled in the show, as well as people of various ethnicities and colors. I won’t go so far as to say every body type was represented (because I think we all should realize bodies are really like snowflakes and they are all unique), but there was a true variety of shapes and sizes. The event itself was set up so you could show up early and take a look at all of the baskets up for auction. Then once the auction started each model came out wearing underwear/sleep wear/lingerie and would also show off a basket. When bidding you were not only bidding on the basket but also whatever the model was wearing. In addition to the auction they did have entertainment in the form of Drag Queen performances.
Not only was this for a good cause, but the event was just a great time. My friend and I that went together had such a good time that we already have plans to go next year. The evening in all was a success. The KBB managed to raise $4,400 for Arbor Youth Services and a good time was had by all.
I took a lot of pictures, I am not sharing them all just the ones I thought were the best of the evening.
Since this is still a blog about plus size fashion, you may be wondering what exactly someone wears to a charity auction and lingerie show. I am pretty sure the answer is anything you want. However, I did manage snap a selfie that evening so I could share what I wore.
I had been holding on to this cupcake print Rebdolls “Loaded Up” Crop Top for over a year now, just wondering what I should wear it to. Going to an event hosted by a gay and bi men’s club and it seeming so body positive appeared to be the perfect opportunity to me.
I paired with it a pink skater skirt from Torrid. While they don’t currently have this color, Torrid always has at least one skater skirt available. They have several at the moment like this Pink & Black Plaid Twill Skater Skirt. I also put on my favorite rainbow necklace made by the beautiful and talented Alyssa of butter n’ honey.
You can’t see them very well in this picture, I do have on a pair of white Skechers Rumblers. You can sort of see a glimpse of them in the lower right hand of the picture. If you haven’t tried these, they are the most comfortable wedges you will ever put on.
I know this post was a bit different from what I typically do, so make sure to let me know if you like this type of post or not. I always appreciate your feedback.
I am finally back from my yearly break. Of course this one lasted much longer than usual, and longer than planned. A lot happened while I was away, if you follow me on social media you may already know some of this, but to be honest I didn’t keep up with social media like I had intended either.
While I was away from the blog I was sick twice, once with a combination of the flu and a sinus infection. That pretty much sucked a week of my life away. Then precious fur baby Ophelia passed away, it was kind of traumatic and sudden. It wasn’t exactly unexpected as she was almost 18 years old, and I think once your cat approaches anything near 15 you probably start feeling a little concerned that day may come soon.
Her death definitely took a toll on our spirit. Surprisingly, it seemed to even bother our other fur baby Lady Catterly. I say surprisingly because she had never gotten along with either of our other cats, and she didn’t seem all that affected when Luscious passed away last year. But Lady Catterly started displaying a number of signs of being sad and lonely. So, after talking to both our vet and an animal behavior specialist, we decided to go ahead and bring another baby into the house.
I would like to introduce you all to Sophie.
She is almost ten weeks old and she is all energy all the time.
I am happy to say that she transitioned into our home very easily, and Lady Catterly loves her. We used the Jackson Galaxy method of introduction, and it really works.
During my time off we have also been working on our house. We do this every year to some extent. This year it has been a lot more than normal, and we are still not done. As I have mentioned before, my niece is moving in this summer and we have been on a mission to make room for her. Our house has always had a severe lack of storage space, so we are adding a lot of items that give us storage in one way or another. Also, we have been getting rid of a lot of things that we just don’t use any more or just don’t want.
I have also been working on some exciting things, at least it will be exciting for those of you who follow me for steampunk related content. First of all my airship is working on our first charity event. We are hoping to work on some larger things in the future, but we are getting started with small Valentine event. If you are in the Lexington area, or want to make a short trip here, come check out The Victorian Valentine Affair.
Also on the steampunk front, The International Steampunk Symposium is coming up at the end of March. It is a little earlier this year due to some scheduling conflicts, so don’t miss out thinking it was in April. This years theme is Steamtastic Beasts. I have recently been asked if I would speak on a couple of panels, one of which is for plus size women who do steampunk. So make sure to get your tickets if you want to come hear me talk about costuming for plus sizes.
I will definitely have recaps of both events for you here on the blog. I have a lot of clothing related things coming up for you. I have a couple of subscription box reviews that I didn’t get to in time for Christmas, but I really want to make sure to share them with you. I also have an update on recent things that did not work for me. So lots of good stuff coming.
I also want to take a minute to thank everyone. This past year has been really tough for me. As most of you know I had quite a few months where I was really sick and didn’t know what was wrong, and once I did it took me a while to get to a place where I could function normally. There have been a lot of stresses, and a lot of struggles. But I appreciate all of you who have stuck around and took the time to read my blog, offer comments here or on social media. Your support means so much.
Whether you are just super busy or just a chronic procrastinator, I know there will be lots of you out there who will be shopping for gifts at the last minute. No matter the reason you are still in need of gifts, I am here to help.
I have been working on an Amazon Idea List just for you last minute shoppers. So make sure to check out my Last Minute Christmas Gifts list. In addition to my list, take a look at the Last Minute Deals page, while you are on Amazon.
Zulily has a Holiday Shop posted, where many items can ship out fast. Those items guaranteed to arrive for Christmas will be marked with a little package symbol.
If you are specifically looking for plus size clothing, then take a look at Simply Be. They now offer two to three day tracked shipping when you upgrade to Express Shipping. And its free when you spend over $100. Most people should be able to order up to the 20th and receive their packages on time for Christmas.
Hautelook offered the following graphic for their cut off dates to get items for Christmas. The picture is clickable if you want to find out what is available on Hautelook.
You can get your Walgreen’s orders shipped to you in time for Christmas if you order by 3 p.m. on December 21st. They have a Holiday Shop page set up to make your Christmas shopping easy. And for you super late shoppers there is same day pick up on all photo gifts. How great of a gift would a mug or a puzzle with a family photo be? And if that isn’t your thing, you can always check where the item you are looking for is available in your town. Every item has a button that says find in store. Simply click that and it will tell you all the stores closest to you that stock the item you are looking for. No more driving all over town searching for it.
Tell me in the comments where your favorite place to do last minute shopping is.
If you are seeing this on the day that it is published then today is my birthday. And I wanted to honor my fellow Scorpios. I thought why not do that by sharing a list of great gift ideas for the Scorpio in your life, or something you as a Scorpio might like to treat yourself to.
I personally am not into horoscopes, but have always loved my astrological sign and found the description accurate for me. So don’t be surprised if there are quite a few items that actually feature the Scorpio astrological symbol.
I have a pretty impressive mug collection and I think this would make the perfect birthday mug for any Scorpio. And of course these are available in other signs, there are links on the product page to each individual sign.
If your going to have a mug, you need something to put in it right? I personally love tea, and I am sure a fair amount of you do as well. Now the Scorpio one that I am linking to is showing as temporarily out of stock, but you can sign up for notifications when it comes back in stock. And of course you can get teas for all of the other signs.
My Zodiac Box Subscription
Maybe you want to get a gift for someone who loves their zodiac, but you don’t know what to get them. Why not try out a subscription box. Yep, there is a subscription box for even that. You just fill out a small form with which zodiac sign you want the box for and a couple of other questions and you are good to go. If you are not sure about this one, I will have a review of this product coming in the relatively close future.
So Scorpios don’t have a birthstone, that is a birth month thing. However, the majority of Scorpios are November babies. And back in the day Golden Topaz was the birthstone of November. But I thought this antique looking pendant necklace would be a big hit, even if it’s not your birthstone, with most Scorpios. And because its handmade you can customize the length of the chain to what is a comfortable fit for you.
If you like the idea of a necklace but you are more into delicate small sizes jewelry, this dainty piece from Torrid might be more your style. You can wear it alone or layer it up with another piece of jewelry to really personalize your style.
This one might seem an odd choice for this list to some of you, but I personally think it works on many levels. Scorpios are a water sign, and with the customization feature you could put a picture of your astrological sign, a picture of someone you love, or just something your passionate about. And this is really a gift that could work for anyone.
Personally, I always think soap makes a good gift. And these soaps have a lot of personality, plus they can be customized. You pick the color and the scent. Since they are customizable, I am sure that you could also ask for fragrance free. This seller also has the other zodiac signs.
There are tons of Scorpio themed rings on the market in all sorts of styles. From simple to bold, but this might be one of the most unique. If your buying for someone who really likes to make a statement with their jewelry this might be a winner.
Scorpio Zodiac Journal
If the Scorpio in your life is more of the creative type, then perhaps a journal might be more to their tastes.
If you looking for a gift for that person that wants to proclaim to the whole world they are a Scorpio and why, then this is the way to go It reads, ‘I Am A Scorpio I Was Born With My Heart On My Sleeve A Fire In My Soul And A Mouth I Can’t Control Tees’. This is available in multiple cuts and sizes.
Tell me in the comments if you are shopping for a Scorpio or if you already have. Or are you a Scorpio yourself? Don’t forget to leave a happy birthday wish or just a shout out to your favorite Scorpio.
Like it is every year, April will be a busy month for me. I will, first and foremost, be participating once again this year in All Dress April.
And since you should be seeing this post on the third of April, that means the challenge is already under way. I will, as always, be posting weekly recaps of what I wore here on the blog. But if you would like to keep up with me on the daily, make sure you are following me on my Instagram. Or if you would like to see what everyone who is participating is wearing, make sure to follow the hashtag #AllDressApril. While you are at it, why not join in too.
I am also trying to simultaneously participate in my friend Jaime Moore’s (a.k.a. @retrocutie) Instagram style challenge Band Tee Saturday.
So don’t be surprised if at least a couple of Saturdays are some skirts mixed with graphic tees. Make sure to check out her Instagram feed. She shares a lot of great things for women and moms on a budget. And check out her blog, No Delusions of Grandeur, when you have a chance.
The theme this year is superheroes and villains. That will be taking place on April 27 – 29. So the last few days of All Dress April will be filled with steampunk looks (I also have my local group meeting earlier in the month, so there may be an additional look then). And if you are at the event, please feel free to say hi. Also, the location has changed yet again this year, so make sure you check their website for all of the info. If you do plan on going, you can save 10% off your weekend tickets with code: CADUCEUS
I am also really happy my niece is going to join me this year. I have been, and will be, spending extra time with her to help prep her with her costume and makeup. I love getting to spend some quality time with her. She only has one more year till she is in college, and while she isn’t moving away she will be much busier.
In amidst everything I will be doing for the actual month of April, I am actually already starting work on some things for May. I don’t want to say too much right now, but I am trying to put some things together that I think you all will really enjoy.
Tell me in the comments what you have going on for the month of April?