I fully admit it, when I love something I obsess on it. I can’t quit thinking about it, and usually I can’t quit talking about it either. So, I want to share with you all the things I am obsessing about, whether it be a product, an idea, or fashion. Give me a shout out and let me know what you are obsessing over.
I wanted to keep everyone updated on some things coming up. I have a lot of different things in the works. I will be introducing several new things here on the blog. We will be trying them out, at least for a while.
In my recent post about the benefits of Amazon Prime I mentioned I would be reviewing some of the features and products you can get as a Prime member. I have the first one of those almost ready for you. And as always if there is something in particular you want to hear about let me know so I can move that to the front of the line.
Also in the works are a couple of guest posts that I hope you will enjoy. Not only do I have a couple of people who are going to write some posts here, I will also be doing a guest post on someone else’s blog, so I will keep you updated on when that happens.
I will be continuing to do the outfit posts, Amazon Hidden Gems, and makeup reviews as usual. But this year I wanted to add some brand focused posts in both fashion and makeup, and possibly skin care. I would do a more focused look at the overall brand and their sizing (if fashion related) and quality as well as share any pictures of items I own from them. I would like to help you guys discover brands that work for you. On the flip side of that, I will also occasionally be doing a flop post. This is where I would share products that either just didn’t work for me or maybe even downright disasters.
I also have planned some topics based around the discussions being had over on my Facebook page. I have been trying to be more interactive on all of my social media. And I really love hearing from all of you who participate. During discussions we have had I thought there were certain topics that really needed a blog post. Some of these are taking longer to do because of the research that has to go into them. If you aren’t already following me on Facebook, I really encourage you to do so. I would love for you to come be a part of the discussion that will help shape the future of this blog.
I will also be on a personal mission this year to fins hair care product that goes beyond not causing an allergic reaction. I hope to find something that actually helps both my hair and scalp. I will be reviewing all the products I try.
I also want to make an effort to share more health and social justice related topics. I would really like for my blog to be the type of place that we can talk about everything and I hope I earn your trust while doing it.
Please share in the comments what topic you would like me to cover on the blog or if there is a product you would like to see reviewed.
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I have talked a few times about my love of art here on the blog. In fact one of my very first dates with my husband was going to a valentine’s day event at a local art gallery. We both love and appreciate various types of art. So it’s really not unusual for us to visit an art gallery, or some sort of tourist attraction surrounding art, when we go on vacation. My most recent vacation in September was no exception. We visited The Ringling while we were in staying in Sarasota County.
In addition to having a lot of fun and relaxation on our vacation, I also found a lot of inspiration. One of the things that inspired me, as you might have guessed, was walking around the Ringling Fine Art Museum. This is just one of four museums you can visit at the Ringling. I found as I was walking around their Fine Art Museum I was really thinking about how body positive art is and has been since the beginning of art. I was especially struck by this thought when I came upon this statue. (I apologize for the quality of any of the pictures I am sharing from my trip, but there was a lot of odd lighting and you can not use flash photography in an art museum)
In the museum I couldn’t find the usual tag that tells the name of the artist or piece. I didn’t see anything other than the signature at the base of the statue. You can see the signature says G. Lachaise. After a tiny bit of research I found this piece was done by Gaston Lachaise, a sculptor of the early 20th century. I couldn’t find the actual name of this piece, but I found that he was known for his sculptures of women, most of who were voluptuous in form.
Every day in our media we are inundated with messages that women are only supposed to look one way. And while that look has changed from time to time over the years, it is still only the look that is popular at the time. But when you walk through an art gallery, it is much more like a celebration of all body types and is representative of real women through time.
Here are just a couple of the pieces I found that I loved during my walk through the museum (paintings will be on the left, and their information tags will be on the right.)
Don’t get me wrong, I am not suggesting that a walk through your local art museum is going to suddenly make everyone love their body as is. What I am suggesting is it is a healthier representations of women’s bodies than what is offered in the media currently because there are so many types of bodies represented in art. And I think having those representations of all bodies is the first step in accepting your own body.
There are also these false ideas we get sold about fat bodies through watching TV and movies. And, unfortunately, those ideas sometimes come from health professionals that should know better. We have this idea that there were no fat bodies until the last thirty or forty years. Or sometimes you are told there were exception during a short period of time that being fat was a symbol or your status and money. And while there is truth in that last statement, the first time you walk through an art gallery of any size and really think about what you are seeing you realize what bull shit the rest of it is.
We might have more fat bodies walking around today than in previous times, but there are many reasons for that. Those reasons are really a topic for another time.
It’s important for future generations that we continue to have those artistic representations of fat bodies. Thankfully there are already artists out there doing just that today. Here is a short list of some of the artist I personally love, please go show them some love.
- Butter n’ Honey – An artist local to me located in Lexington, Ky. Amongst other things, her art includes curvy mermaids, fairies, and other cuties.
- Joanna Thangiah – An artist based in Sydney, Australia. Her art is mainly focused on feminism and quite often features fat bodies.
- The Tiny Hobo – I have talked about this artist on the blog before, her art is pop culture and icons shown with fat bodies. I am linking to her website. She did have an Etsy shop previously, but it seems to be gone now.
Tell me in the comments below who your favorite artist is that includes fat bodies in their work. Who should we be following and supporting?
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I have had request from a few of you to share more about what I try on Pinterest, especially when in comes to recipes. I actually try a lot of things on Pinterest, so I am more than happy to accommodate that. I try various crafts and recipes at whim, so I can’t make promises on how regular these posts will be.
I know Pinterest gets a lot of criticism because the crafts often don’t actually work the way people say they do or they are unrealistic. Because of this Pinterest has recently added a new feature where people can rate whether they had success when they tried making what was on individual pins. Along with it you can leave a note. For instance there have been a few times recipes have been successful for me, but I had to make some small adjustments.
I think overall I have been pretty successful with my Pinterest attempts. I think there are three keys to making sure that you have successful Pinterest attempts too.
- Be realistic about your skill level. Just because someone else makes something look easy, it doesn’t mean that you have the same skill level they do.
- Don’t be afraid to have some failures. No one is perfect at anything the first time they do anything, unless they are a prodigy.
- Don’t be afraid to alter things and go with you gut. Let’s take the recipes for an example. There are a lot of things that can a recipe correct that is posted, but still need to be changed for you. The cookware you are using, temperature variations on the stove or oven you are using, environmental factors, dietary needs, and so much more can be reasons you may need to change a recipe slightly.
Just remember to have fun, and don’t take things so serious.
This past week had me trying two different recipes. The first was for a friend’s birthday party who wanted everyone to bring tapas style food. I hadn’t been feeling well for a while, so my energy levels were on low, but most of my friends are foodies so they expect big things. I wanted to find something to make that would take not too much effort, but make a big impression.
What I ultimately ended up making were these Baked Brie & Bacon Jam Phyllo Cups shared from the blog Wry Toast.
This did go over incredibly well at the party. But I did have to make some small adjustments. The portions on the cheese and bacon seemed way off. I made a double batch, but the only thing I actually ended up using double of was the phyllo cups. I used maybe a quarter more of the ingredients to double it than to just make one batch.
The second recipe I tried out, you may already know about if you follow me on Instagram. I decided to give this Garlic Butter Chicken and Pasta Slow Cooker Recipe a try. This was shared from The Magical Slow Cooker.
I also made some alterations with this recipe, but I only found one of them to be necessary, and that was the I doubled the butter. The rest of my alterations were for personal taste.
For this dish I did snaps some pictures of the progression of making it.
This was the original ingredients that went into the crock pot. As you can see I decided to use whole baby carrots in mine instead of the slice carrots the original recipe calls for.
This picture didn’t turn out the best, but this is the point where the chicken got shredded and the peas are added.
And this was the end results after adding my pasta and cheese. My husband absolutely loved this. It had a lot of flavor, and the work load was minimal. If you can cook pasta, you can make this.
Tell me in the comments below what you tried on Pinterest last and how it went. And please share any tips you have for making Pinterest endeavors successful.
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For years I have been both an online seller and buyer. Most of those experiences, like for many people looking to either sell or to purchase a good bargain, were spent with eBay. While I still do occasionally buy or sell a few items on eBay, over the last few years it has been on a serious decline for both. I have tried out buying and selling on a few other websites, I have even tried out some Facebook groups, but most of them just don’t have the exposure or amount of people involved to really have the potential most people are looking for.
But late last year I really went on a search for new places to buy and sell and I came across some apps people were talking about. I decided to give them a try, and well they are pretty great. I am sure some of you are already using them, but some of you probably have never heard of them. So I am here to tell you all about it. And just so you know, there are way more than just three out there, but these are the top three that I feel comfortable recommending.
I have been both buying and selling on Poshmark since January of this year. My experience has been overall a positive one. Though I highly recommend if you are going to get into the selling aspect you join a group for help. One like The Best Poshmark Tips Facebook group is good. There are restrictions on what you can sell, so make sure you read everything before listing to sell. I really like that they made it easy to create a widget so I could share my listing and some of my favorite sellers with you guys.
And if you are new to Poshmark, if you sign up using the code JUPTZ you will save $5 off your first purchase. I don’t think there is any kind of minimum purchase requirements either.
I have lots more up for sale than the few items showing in the widget, that is just to give you a preview. But I wanted to also give you an idea of some the things I have bought from other people and what kind of price I paid.
This is the City Chic Spotty Dot Top. I already had one in gray, and had really wanted this pink one for the longest but they were all sold out. I found one in my size new with the tags on it on Poshmark. I paid $15.
I found these unique unicorn clutches on Poshmark. I purchased the silver one, it has a rainbow metallic look to it in person. I paid $19 on Poshmark.
I needed a tiered lace skirt for the new steampunk costume I put together this year. I found this new with tags Torrid three tier skirt. The seller was originally asking $17, I ended up paying $13.
That is right you can negotiate on Posh. Though here is a solid tip for those looking for a bargain, most sellers don’t mind you asking for a deal but don’t be offensive with your requests and take no for an answer. For instance if a seller just put out a brand new item you think t’s a little too high, don’t offer less than half their asking price. That is a good way to get blocked by sellers. Most people are already selling items 30% to 50% off the original retail price anyway, and most items on Poshmark are either new or gently used. There are exceptions, so make sure you ask lots of questions before buying if you are unsure of anything.
Poshmark seems pretty fair to both the seller and buyer. When you make a purchase the money goes into a holding account until the transaction is finished. The seller has so many days to ship, if they don’t ship before seven days (though they are encouraged to ship much quicker) the buyer then has the option to cancel their purchase and get a refund. But if the item was shipped on time, when the buyer receives it they have up to three days to inspect it. It is encouraged that you inspect quicker than that, but it is a time allowance for in case you just don’t have time the day you receive. Once you inspect you either release the funds and rate the seller or you tell Poshmark there was an issue. If there is an issue Poshmark has you send the item back to the seller and when they have the item back you get your money back. It works quite well, and this is my #1 pick for apps to use.
I signed up for Vinted around the same time I did Poshmark. I haven’t ever listed anything for sale on there, at least not yet. I have bought some things though. It doesn’t look like Vinted has any widgets to share your favorite sellers or anything. But my favorite item I have purchased were these Steve Madden Troopa Boots gently used.
These retailed for close to $200, but I paid $18 for them on Vinted.
There doesn’t appear to be any code to share for shopping credits, if I find anything different I will update this later.
I have only recently signed up for Mercari. I haven’t bought or sold anything yet. I decided to sign up because I have heard so many great things from other people I thought it was worth checking out. If you download the app and use the code XMMXCB you will receive $2 off your first purchase.
I thought I would share some things I have found on there that might interest some of you.
2X UNITY WORLD WEAR WOMAN PULLOVER SHIRT – Seller is just asking $5 plus shipping.
BB Dakota Lace Sauron Dress in Blue – Seller is asking $10 plus shipping
New size 3X – Seller is asking $20 plus shipping.
Old Navy Sweater Dress – This is a 4X and the Seller is asking $15 plus shipping.
The items I listed were available to purchase as I was writing this, so I am sorry if they have sold before you saw this. Obviously there are more options available on Mercari in plus sizes than what I have posted here, but I wanted to give you some idea of what is on there.
There is however fewer options in plus sizes here than on the other two apps. But they do have other categories to shop the other apps don’t, like housewares.
Tips For Shopping On Apps
Most people selling on these apps are honest, however people make mistakes and forget to mention things sometimes, and unfortunately there are some people strictly trying to scam you. To make things easy on everyone here are some easy things to make your app shopping experience ten times easier. ask lots of questions.
- Read the listing, and then reread it. I can not tell you how many times I have heard people say they were unhappy with purchases, or that it just wasn’t what they expected, but had they read the listing instead of just looking at the title and picture they would have known what to expect.
- If you are buying clothing, know your measurements not just your sizing. And ask for measurements. There are no returns on these apps.
- Ask lots of questions. If you aren’t sure about something, after you have read the listing, then don’t be afraid to ask. And seller that is being honest with you will happily answer your questions.
- Ask for more pictures. If you really like an item but something still doesn’t feel right or they have posted pictures that are hard to see ask for more pictures.
- Be patient and courteous to the seller. Try to remember this is not most of these people’s full time jobs. Most people are just selling on their off time to help make ends meet or to clear out their closets. So they aren’t always available to answer your questions immediately.
- This is not a yard sale. Haggling on most of these apps is allowed, but don’t offer yard sale prices. Most items are either brand new or like new, so offering someone $5 for an item that was originally $200 is very insulting.
- And finally, don’t forget to rate your seller. Keep your ratings based on things like shipping time. Did they answer your questions. Was the item described accurately. So if you receive an item and you decide you just don’t like the way it looks on you, please don’t give the seller a bad rating. You are not rating the item, you are rating the seller and it affects them.
Tips For Selling On Apps
Most buyers are honest and just looking for a good deal. However, just like the occasional seller, there are some buyers who are out to run scams. And if you want to make sure to have done your best as a seller and give the app you are selling through no reason to side against you, then here are some quick tips for selling.
- Always be willing to answer questions, even if you have already answered them.
- Take lots of pictures. Using stock photos are great for details, but always either post or be willing to produce without hesitation actual pictures of your items. This is for both the information of your customer and your own safety of sorts.
- Keep a tape measure handy. You can either post measurements in your listing or give them out when asked. I tend to do a mixture. If the brand I am selling is known for being consistent in their sizing I usually wait to be asked. But if I know the sizing is odd for something I will either post it runs small or large, and post measurements.
- Be courteous to your buyers. Everyone has bad days, so you may even have someone say things that seem not so nice. Just brush it off and move on. If it’s really bad you can always block them.
- Always find out what the rules are for selling and what can be sold on each app or place you are selling.
- Keep all your records or documentation like pictures and measurements until after you receive a rating from your customer. If for some reason you do have someone open a case against you, you may need it as proof to back up your statements.
I hope these tips help anyone thinking of buying and selling on an app. There really is nothing to worry about, you just need to be informed before buying.
So tell me have you shopped on one of these apps before? Is there another app I didn’t mention you think we should all know about? Have a tip for making shopping easier? Please share in the comments below. And I would love to see some of your favorite purchases.
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I may be boring some of you by now with my many post that have included thing about the 2016 Internation Steampunk Symposium. Since it has overlapped with doing the All Dress April Challenge that means that my personal fashion for the weekend has been covered for the most part. I did leave some of the details out so that we would still have some things to talk about, but I also have some things outside of my own fashion that I have not shared yet. So for those of you who are not into steampunk, I will get back to normal (well normal for me) after this post. But also, if you aren’t into steampunk, why? Yes its nerdy or geeky, whichever you prefer to call it. But it really is 90% fashion, and fashion forwards/backwards (time travel is confusing) at that. So lets talk about the things I haven’t shared first. I think I mentioned last year how much it really pleased me to see the number of beautiful plus size curvy ladies that were there. And this year was no let down. I think that the curvy women outdid themselves this year. t seemed as though there was an even larger number of plus size ladies participating this year, and the talent in costume construction was even more spectacular. Here are just a few of the ladies and their costumes that I thought were highlights: (Anyone I have a link to or permission to post their name will be listed below their picture) This costume and lady was amazing. You might remember her from last years post from the Steampunk Symposium, she was one of the few that I didn’t get her info. She had the beautiful Russian Queen looking costume. This year it took a little thought to figure out what her costume was. Once you had it, you realized it was not only visually stunning, but absolutely brilliant. She was a hot air balloon. Even down to her feet there was a little caged basket. Well this year I actually managed to get her name, and a link to her business. This beautiful and talented ladies name is Brittney Benjamin. And you can find her new costuming business on Facebook as Shewolf Studios. I highly recommend you check her items out, you won’t regret it. Any other Doctor Who fans in the house? I knew The Doctor was really a woman. I don’t know where she found her jacket or if she made it(in hind sight I should have asked), but it was so spot on The Doctor and I loved it. Representing the Airship Ashanti is the beautiful Ofeibea Loveless. (Side note: If you are not familiar with how steampunk cons work, groups can form airships that compete in competitions to earn points for winning.) If you would like info on Airship Ashanti you can contact them through their Facebook Page. This costume just looked so regal, and I loved the mix of fabrics. And best of all it was unique to her and the character she was embodying. If I remember correctly, she did make this herself. This lady and her family were walking around enjoying the festivities. I found out that her mother made the outfit. But the whole family were very talented. The umbrella she is carrying she made. And the gentleman walking around with the ladies (I assume he was related, but I did not have that verified) had made his own hat with moving parts. And we both laughed that she and I have the same necklace, well not exactly the same as they are all hand made and made unique. And this gorgeous lady was such a delight to meet. She is starting out a brand new plus size modeling career. Her name is Persephone Jones. Go give her Facebook fan page some love and check out some of her pictures.
Now I have already posted the pictures of my costumes on Instagram and in the Looks From Week Two Of #AllDressApril post. But I will share them again here in case you missed them, and share the details I didn’t in the other posts.
I was going for a steampunk version of a gypsy/witch. I listed most of the clothing and where I got them in the previous article. But I left the accessories out. In this particular costume I have three accessories. There are the shoes, a necklace and a bag that goes around your waist or hip. You can choose how to wear the bag. So both the shoes and the necklace I purchased them gently used off of shopping apps. I will talk about which ones and how they work in an upcoming post I have planned. The bag at my waist though came from The Pyramid Collection. It is their Unisex Hip Pack. I really was quite thankful for this item. One of the best investments I have made for a costume. It was great to have somewhere to put my things without having to carry a purse.
Everything has already been posted for this look in either of the previous two articles listed. But I also managed to get some decent shots of my makeup this year.
Outside of all the costuming and beautiful plus size ladies, there is a lot more to the Steampunk Symposium. Here are just a couple of the highlights from this year.
Derigible races are always a fun time. And this was one of my favorite ships to run. It didn’t win, but the design concept was awesome.
These were some of the neatest toys in the sellers market. They were all kids animated toys that had been stripped down and made steampunk.
And of course, nothing is better than getting to spend time with friends.
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